Say won't you Say

Battle of the Sexes

I discovered tonight that there is no winning or losing when it comes to trying to "figure out" the opposite sex. The verdict will almost always be the same; Girls will always think guys are hard to figure out and weird, and guys will always think that girls are complicated and too sensitive. However, I have found to be true in my own experiences that guys actually usually say exactly what they mean, and we as girls don't understand this concept because we like to make everything complicated. Of course I think when you get into a relationship, you see the bright side of these things play out and you realize that we are made completely different in these ways so that we are able to help each other better understand the world and people in it just a little bit better. This is why it is usually said that opposites attract. If you are the social butterfly, you will probably be drawn to the guy who is there, but kinda works behind the scenes, and sits back and kinda just takes everything in, while you are out in the middle of everything living it up. What it all boils down to is guys need girls and girls need guys, and if there is a battle I think it is clearly due to frustration, bitterness, and loneliness, on both parts.

Tonight I also felt like a little piece of my heart was restored, just by a simple honest conversation between two friends who are very unlikely perhaps from an outsiders view, but in my mind, sometimes I don't even remember a time before we were friends. We've made it a point to be brutally honest with each other, it make take a little while but eventually everything comes out, even things she probably wishes I wouldnt have told her sometimes! In all honesty I've probably been in more fights/arguments with her then any other friend I've ever had, and I think much of that due to honesty. In past friendships I think I have let things build up and build up inside because I was afraid to tell them what I really thought and felt about things in my life, their life, and relationships, etc. I avoid confrontation at all costs, but I feel like I trust her so much more because of our honesty, and although we see things very differently sometimes,have the exact opposite taste in music, movies, and clothing most of the time, I feel like she knows me so well and I know her, and we don't have a cookie cutter perfect friendship by anymeans, but we've got honesty and trust and loyalty and each time we throw all of our feelings, thoughts and emotions out on the table to each other and talk about things and how we are going to attempt to make them better, we grow as friends. She is going through things that I admittedly do not understand fully, but I know her and her heart and I am trying my hardest to just be the best friend I can, the same friend I was 6 months ago and a year ago. Because although circumstances around us change that doesnt take a toll on our friendship each time, it's merely new things that we get to experience and grow through together. I know she will be there for me when I go through situations such as these, which it may be quite a while, but she will be nearly an expert by then and it will be Golden!

As for her current situation, I am still trying to get adjusted, but I am hopeful that everything will be just fine. Just because she doesnt always do things in the way I would and with the people I would choose, doesnt mean that she is wrong by anymeans. She is actually very happy, which in turn makes me happy for her. I think its natural to be concerned for your friend, and at the same time to have some feelings of jealousy and speculation in times such as these. But, I'm working on it, and not just "dealing with it", but wanting to go beyond that and see what she sees and like it for what it is, and not just because I am supposed to. Time and patience is what's going to need to happen. Just to clear up any miscommunication of feelings on my part, to whom it may concern! =)

posted by Amanda Michelle Morrison @ 2:51 AM