The I Dont's of I Do's
I went home this past weekend for my Uncle John's wedding. It was both he and his now wife's first marriages and they are in their 30's and 40's. It was small only close friends and family about 75 people or so. While it was a beautiful thing, very sweet and lovely as most weddings are, there were a few things that made it more of a bitter, than bliss event.I was reminded by all of my family there that I am almost 23 and that naturally for me the next step in my life should be marriage and then I should be popping babies out ya know sometime in the next 2 years, so that I'll be done with that before I'm 30. These are the expectations of a generation above mine and ones above that, because for them, that was the progression of things, and it did move faster then; however, for me, these expectations they all have is just not a reality at the moment and while I am thankful for where I am in my life right now, and try everyday to trust the Lord, and to be productive now in my life, and not wishing and hoping for things that are just not God's timing at this moment in my life, it doesn't make it easy for me when my own family is longing for these things even more than I am myself!
Don't get me wrong I want these things marriage, and kids in my life, very much in fact, but not today and I am only 22! They made me feel as if it doesn't happen soon, it just wont happen, and I know perfectly well that is not true at all!
I have another wedding at home in 2 weeks, Brittany Goelnner and Jared Gandy's so hopefully that one will be lots of fun to see old friends from high school and not a room full of old people who all think something must be wrong with you because you don't have a ring on your finger!
Praising God for the Rain we got today, amongst many other evident blessings,
amanda
posted by Amanda Michelle Morrison @ 3:55 PM
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empathetically,
my mom planted a rose in her garden this summer which represented me and another unidentified rose right next to it. when asked for whom the other rose stood, she curtly replied, "your wife."
she said although we don't yet know who she is, she will be praying for her that she grows into a godly woman who will be perfect for me.
although this was a sweet and caring gesture, i couldn't ignore the pressure and expectation of these statements.
i know how you feel.
THANK YOU! hahaha that is pretty sweet though that your mom did that. At least that is a subtle gesture, rather than verbal humiliation. I know its all in Love though :-)
I think 22 is pretty young. 24, on the other hand, is pretty much mid-30's, so I had to tie the knot. :)
M
I read a Relevant Article recently that talked about the family pressure.
http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life_article.php?id=7205
Yeah, our family liked to pop out babies ASAP. I guess that's why we had 5 generations alive at once (and captured in a picture). Anyway, love you.
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